I remember my first fight with my partner’s father vividly.
I abhor conflict, and I don’t often get into arguments with people. However, as I get older, and perhaps as our parents’ generation gets older, it seems as though all parties are losing their filters and reacting more strongly. The details of the fight are not all that important — things were said that probably should have remained unsaid. Both parties felt attacked and defensive.
My partner was staunchly on my side, although I was to blame as well. However, we were both quick to realize the ramifications of my fallout with his father. I remember the look of sadness that crossed his face as he said softly, “this ruins everything.”