Dear Shon,
I’m a trans woman, and for a year now, I’ve been seeing this guy. He’s very hot and cold but overall so incredibly sweet, kind, funny, and handsome (and so on). We were official for about a month, but he came to my place one day and told me we had to break up because I’m trans and he didn’t want his friends and family to know he was in a relationship with me.
Despite him trying to break up with me, I’m still seeing him. I still love him, and I’ve told him so—even if he won’t say it back. I’ve never felt so safe and comfortable around another person, and ironically this is probably the healthiest (and definitely the longest) relationship I’ve ever had. I really believe he loves me, even if he is so emotionally unavailable and frankly cowardly that he can’t seem to admit it.
Part of me knows that this is temporary and will end someday, either because I just can’t take it anymore or because I find someone else who actually does want to be with me. But I want to find a way somehow to make it work because he is such a sweet man and so good to me, most of the time. What should I do?
Yours,
Wishful Thinking
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